Tuesday 22 January 2013

Women! What at all about them.

I'm told that there are several things in women that drive the men in us into that state of amorous affection. Some boys go fetish about some of these things, others can't simply help the weakness in them should their eyes lay visual claim to some of these usually tangible features of a woman; they would simply barter their manly glory for ass-cheeks, gracious feet, mountainous boobs, smooth skin, dimples, long legs et al. I don't necessarily mean the things that turn us on, though they may be the very things that fatten our shafts or make them crotch to the fabric of our flaps. I am particularly attracted to a few feminine features that may leave the hinges of my jaw loose for a minute or two having seen a girl blessed by those. I can comfortably proclaim that such girls are beautiful, or when in a poetic mood, I can simply Create a sensual chain of adjectives just to hang on my description of them…Some conveniently say “beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder" and though it’s one of the senseless clichés to me, I can't help but swallow my pride to the logic that we all have different parts of a woman's body that we go crazy about. Be that as it may, a woman who is well created I think, should never face the rejection of a man's amorous eyes. We are created to be especially triggered by the stuff we see. Ok, so I have flapped about a number of irrelevant issues, let me go straight to the points, and pardon my bluntness; or forgive me lest you are disappointed. It’s all accepted in literature.
First of all, it deserves to be on record that the snow in me simmers at the experience of a girl who exudes some smartness. I have always maintained that I want a lady who would both arouse my loins and my intellect. That gives a good idea, right???? "What’s the point blowing my stick till I wear down in pleasure if you can’t blow some senses out of me when we both need to plan or make healthy arguments. I simply love ladies who are close to their books, are good at calculating their figures, and would die to have that novel, speak with such fluency that smacks of oratory, and have reasonable opinions that can spark an intellectual intercourse. Simply put, I would simply fall for a girl, who would not simply kowtow to my orders because she thinks am the most intelligent boyfriend. I hate girls who simply obey all the time; I don't want to be treated like an object of worship in a relationship or marriage. I don't want a pet in a woman, I need a friend; I don't want a student in a girl, I need a co-debator..
There are other physical features that endear to my sight, they are not necessarily what I need in a woman, they are things my romantic egos crave for...On any day, if I'm to choose amongst a bevy of women, which may never be the case, I would choose a skinny over too much flesh. That’s no breaking news right??? My breath is seized at the sight of a shapely slender or skinny girl with a pointed face and a cocoa-brown complexion…Maybe Meagan Goode of Hollywood fits into that description, but that can only be a dream..There are far prettier girls in Ghana I think and if I can have one of them, I would desire for one with a beautiful pair of natural walking sticks, those that are somewhat spotless, clean and smooth like the curtains of heaven. Those pair must be accompanied by feet that are adorned with grace and nails as bright as silk. I am shaken by girls with an appreciable set of twin towers straddled to their chest. Those that don't need to announce how juicy they are, even when they are incarcerated by the cover of blouses..
You may not need to have too much flesh both at your pelvic area or sitting region, yet you don’t have to miss your good shape if I have to fall for you, and your tummy obviously got to be flat, and your waist, well outlined. I've had a thing for girls who are hairy, I don't know it that would change...So you see, only if God gives me the opportunity to create a girl who would meet my fancy, I may have given you a fair idea..However, at least I'm certain I don’t have to wait for a lady with all these features...God keeps creating beautiful women, and though I may not be too handsome, He  brings out the best in me and affords me the strength to accept the things my eyes can’t  change.

LOVE CoNQUErS ALL.

The things we do for love

So it keeps popping up in my head; what can I do for the one I claim to love. If it was a test, I think I may have failed, the last time she put the question before me. During one of those moments when am engrossed in very deep phone conversations with a few of my very close female buddies, questions like those come up, sometimes these girls simply would want to put the level-headed man in you to test. Well they've always known am not a dummy and that I can play around questions to gratify conventional wisdom. I am particularly in the habit of delving into people's personality with the craftiness and cunning husk that comes with my questions. And to confess, I have for many of the time found out more than I ever deserved to be told. But when you are asked to provide an essay of answers to what you can do to show to someone that you really love them, it seems a little on the spot for me. Conveniently, I would have said "everything"… Oh yes, my philosophical appreciation of loving someone gives justice to that answer but certainly not in Africa or Kumasi in Ghana where I am blogging this...How can I possibly advertise to a lady that I Can do everything or anything for her simply to justify the feeling I Have for her. Well, if she is smart enough, she would recognise the mischief in my eyes and the smell of the deceit that I have spewed out. but you see, in a typical love relationship in Ghana, before you even answer the question, there is a lot  of funny things you may have done already, perhaps in the name of love..but the question still stimulates both my intellectual and emotional curiosity..What are the things I would do for love???? Like I really want to attempt answers.
First of all, am yet to find myself in a very committed relationship where there is space and romantic reason to express love in the wildest estimation...Funny enough, even in those teenage adventures, sometimes people claim to be mimicking love characters like Romeo and Juliet. Funny isn’t it???? That's just the result of reading too many books when you where young, or perhaps watching too many telenovelas...we can always pardon the girls for that, they are created to survive by their fantasies..Now to think that what I feel for some time now is love, then hello, let’s just conclude that there's a lot I Can do for love and by that, I mean real stuffs that can make my lady confess that "dude, you are the best thing that happened to me"
I have no idea how people measure generousity these days, but I  think I Can be reasonably generous; maybe I haven't shown it yet, and it’s okay to think that way in a Ghanaian society where people sometimes wish they were begging as a job..Deep down within me, I know there's that desire to meet people at the point of their needs as much as I Can. The love of my life would be the ultimate beneficiary I think...she may have my food whilst I sleep on empty stomach, she may have my phone whilst my sim card is in my pocket, she may use the bed whilst I Break my back on the floor. She may have the mint whilst I walk with the smell of fish in my mouth. She may have the call credit when my account says " Niggar,you have no call credits”. she may have me beside her bed in the hospital, whilst I Count down minutes to the start of my most difficult exams at Law school. She may need the money for that dress she is crazy about, whilst I lie to my mum that somebody stole the money she asked me to keep. I may still have to drop her off when my boss has been waiting in my office for half an hour. I would dry her clothes on the line and take them off the line whilst she lazily sinks in the sofa. I would ask the boys to leave for the stadium without me when I know she only needs me around to keep her company whilst she watches her favourite telenovela.I would stop being friends with our neighbour’s daughter if I realise she is just not comfortable seeing us together; it’s her I want not my neighbour's daughter. I would help do the cooking once that would please her even if it’s against my wish, I would read her notes to her hearing whilst my own notes are virgin. I would still have to drop her off at church that Sunday when I plan not to be part of the service hence never get close to the chapel. I may have to disappoint family just to be with her. I would call of schedules that may fatten my pockets just to take her to the beach. I would smile to her friends even when I'm in the worst of moods. I would respect her annoying friends so I don't incur her wrath. I would fix a meal for her when she knows she has to. I would say things that would make her smile, I would bring out the optimism in her when she is dazed with disappointments and dizzy with frustrations. She would rely on my sense of hope and take inspiration from my shoulders. I would tell her the truth especially when I have to. I can't be exactly her Romeo, yet the little things that would make her smile and make both of us testify that love is a beautiful feeling I would be prepared to do. I would indeed touch her toe, kiss her forehead and maybe   I should follow with her name once I cough or sing an Efya song for her, just dip my hands into my pocket just to grant her wish and make HER FEEL how special I feel about her.

Monday 14 January 2013

Love it!!!! feel it!!!!


We might as well need to hate, if the option of love seems too much a complication to bear. We may hate everybody and not care if we are hated back. What makes love so different.....???? Each time we expect to love and be loved back immediately. We anticipate that everybody else should be crazy about us like we claim to be.
Well guess love hardly works that way, but definitely hatred is not an option. This whole world loses its colours when love evaporates from the human race. Love is a beautiful thing; as beautiful as the creator through whose ingenuity love became a human element, so that filthy minds and morons like you may for once feel special. It’s that special when love sweeps you away from your feet. It feels for you like heaven and earth have swapped positions; it leaves a clot in your shadow, one that becomes like your life button. Your shadow no more becomes your personal possession. You are always found living to see her shadow in yours. Her own ways becomes the content of your thoughts..Soon you become a poet...You speak about her in lines that could have failed William Shakespeare.She may be young or old, thick or skinny, fair or dark, black or Caucasian...yet her looks still leaves that angelic spell on you. Congratulations if she feels the same way about you. You two may leave God smiling in the beauty of His own holiness..Maybe you are not sure if she feels the same way about you or sometimes you think she doesn't even look your way at all..Well, that could be a little pathetic. But that's how they are created to react to us; many of them though their emotions are the softest, yet there are many things that move them at a time. You may probably have to learn to regulate all those gears at the same time. It needs patience, sometimes the one you would never have. Some are weird; they come around when you are about giving up. Some would never show you the least of what they feel, they think it makes them weak or you never may have shown how much you want them. Some simply want your friendship; they keep asking you stay yet they never show you in certain terms what you are dying to have - their hearts, body and soul. Some simply deserve time like they are in labour, so keep pampering, keep on with the attention, but ask them to push when they need to, at least for the safety of what you both feel.. Pure love is a miracle, sometimes the best thing that can happen to you.  However, if there are other things that are simply golden and worth craving for: Genuine friendship and mutual trust.

LOVE BECOMES A BI-PRODUCT.

Saturday 12 January 2013

COUNTDOWN OF ANOTHER STRUGGLE FOR MEANINGFUL DEMOCRACY AND A WORKING GOVRNMENT - ILLUSION OR REALISM


I’m one of the proudest Ghanaians; indeed amongst the very, who expresses a glamorous optimism in this country as a potential candidate for “the next big thing in Africa. I believe especially, in our highly cherished bust that stands tall in the gallery of Africa’s achievers of sound democracy and good governance. I may not be old enough to lay emphasis on the many strides this country has made, but particularly, our specialty of becoming the black star of Africa and foundational proponents of an African Unity, enunciated in the idealism of Osagyefo Dr. Kwame Nkrumah; as well as our many more contemporary achievements, makes me believe that Ghana is the envy of many African countries and a special place to call a country.
And like we do every four years, Ghana has just come out of an election that supposedly was to have become the most challenging in our history so far; owing to the new experiment of a biometric electoral system and the sudden political engineering that took place on the field of the ruling National Democratic Congress having lost their leader prior to the elections. We may hardly forget the aggressive pursuit of pure partisan political clientelism or the populist, possible – impossible FREE SHS arguments that inundated the platforms of almost all the political parties that contested in the elections. As I have arguably maintained, the only problem the NDC had with FREE-SHS was that they were not the ones talking about it, and though the N.P.P had in their leader, a traditional brand name in Ghanaian politics, obviously far experienced, a sophisticated activist and a highly respected legal luminary, he seemed too coquettish in his appeal for votes from the Ghanaian people especially in espousing his banner message of FREE SHS, quality healthcare and transformational leadership. Nana Addo - though an orator par excellence - was literally terrible at speaking to the hearts and conscience of the most critical Ghanaian minds. However, he was terrific at electrifying the masses and proving that he was fit to be president, he has run a campaign that would in the future become a model for this country. He could easily have become our new President. But his opponents who were better at a few things obviously did those things right. The NDC was unbeatably strategic at throwing the JM brand in the faces of Ghanaians –old or young- obviously not without their vulgar advertisement of “the evils” in Akufo Addo, his NPP and their FREE SHS. The NDC has had the most impressive electoral machinery and a machismo inspiration of winning their elections at a good cost. The truth is that though many of us, even prior to his becoming the vice-president expected that someday John Dramani Mahama would be president, I never particularly thought that it may come this fast, at least not before an Akufo Addo presidency, which sits in a trance of legal gymnastics right now –The battle of the Lord to the courts. I may possibly speak about it later and hey, I learnt that mischief from my NDC friends.
Most importantly, the elections are over; it would be utterly cynical on my part to think otherwise. We have just sworn in a new president and Ghanaians have new expectations. Until the court in the reasonably unlikely event invalidates John Mahama’s presidency to make Akufo Addo the president as sought in his reliefs to the Supreme Court, many well meaning Ghanaians would still chant their incantations on President Mahama’s government to fulfill their campaign pledges and make life better than they came to meet. I am particularly demanding over these two critical necessecities of a new government (Mahama led or a dreary possible Akufo led) – A MEANINGFUL DEMOCRACY AND A WORKING GOVERNMENT.
Through everyday discussions, social commentary or on official platforms, many lovers of Ghanaian politics attempt to propose a myriad of governance strategies, critical visions, programs and policies that political leaders need to espouse, they talk about priority areas and others that they are confident can make this country work, whilst others are at their best criticizing the bad choices and practices of governments or policy positions that need to be eschewed if Ghana is to be made better. Some are experts; some are past politicians and political scientists but there is an amazing number of ordinary Ghanaians who like me, feel that this country should and can be made better whatever it takes. “That democracy and the rule of law should never perish from the earth” and that governments must work to add more meaning to the practice of democracy. But just like human beings, this country falls sick many of the times if it had not been sick since independence. Why do I say so? Corruption is still pervasive; there are lazy civil and public servants, many more roads  are not motorable, there are industries that have been run down for years, there is an uncountable number of Ghanaians who live all their lives in tattered penury, people still drink water from the same source as their animals, there are schools under trees, there is an increasing number of joblessness that even graduates are not spared, governments still lack proper planning and we still keep bad leaders though we have had a lot of them. This is not time to point accusing fingers, but I just wanted to give you an idea of how sick this country is and what my expectations of the new government that would lead this country in the next four years would be. In assuming the doctor’s role, I have prescribed particularly in this article that our democracy needs to be made meaningful and our governments must stop sleeping on their jobs. A meaningful democracy in my estimation, assumes that institutions of government function effectively and are strengthened, citizens are highly engaged in the governance process, the powers that be are distributed equitably and finally, the public goods are allocated with authority, equality and with the urgency that characterized the campaigns. These samples seem simple yet they are the basic duties that many governments have fumbled with. Why? Because the power of the people that elected them are taken with a pinch of salt. Afteral, there is always a way out of the elections and there are world banks that would produce the votes even if “goats” are made candidates. That is another fundamental problem of the citizenry and an affront to a meaningful democracy. So it’s clear that just as Ghana needs responsible leaders, we as citizens have a role to play. However, what is most critical to me now and to the health of this country is the kind of leader we have put in place and how able he is or would be in translating our dreams and aspirations or simply put; the very things we need as a country into reality. That makes democracy meaningful. Courts or no courts, we probably may have elected a leader with such potentials in the just ended elections, but how many of such leaders haven’t we seen? And as to whether he sole the elections or not, I have always maintained that “when two major political parties in Ghana accuse each other of rigging an election, it seems to me like two prostitutes fighting over a “stolen client”.
             So I can say on authority without any apologies or royalties to any political grouping that what we need is a better Ghana. Oh yes! We need a better Ghana because the Ghana we have had is just a little better than bad. So I require of our President, whoever is at post: with all due respect Sir, if indeed the sword you wield is the genuine symbolism of the people’s power as you claim you won in the just ended elections, then with the cleanest of conscience, “hold it firmly” I pray, and don’t let anybody snatch it away from you because a meaningful democracy is as terrible as dictatorship if your legitimacy becomes a tidal wave. I challenge you to make appointments on merit and not on mere party gratifications, appoint the finest of people to state institutions irrespective of their political sympathies, and in so doing cherish the technocrats like you cherish your presidency. You must develop a relish for inspiring every side of our nation and give even the youngest child in Ghana a sense of hope. In showing that you are in charge of this country, you must sometimes be docile as a lamb yet manifest the courage of a lion. You must cherish the ideals of our democracy:  freedom and justice, the rule of law and due process. Punish useless people in your government and sack the corrupt if proven so. Your government communicators must desist from baseless arguments and defences. Your ministers must be honest to show acceptance for their weakness even if it may cost you the next election. In deeds and in speech, you must show transformation in every sector of government, use our resources valuably and grow our economy.
            Most critically, the power you hold must ultimately benefit the people, they may not have voted based on your promises or they may not even have voted for you at all but they still have expectations of you. Don’t flaunt economic figures in their faces. Rather, regulate the critical sectors aptly and religiously commit yourself to relieving the plights of our people through your fiscal policies whilst creating an environment conducive enough for business growth. In so doing, Ghanaians must buy their commodities at reasonable prices, drivers should be able to afford their fuel, long queues to buy LPG are an eye-sore, incessant power outages can be really annoying. Our roads must be fixed; our schools must be taken off the streets, hamlets and villages must be connected to the national grid and sources of water. Also, give proper incentives to farmers; provide affordable housing and make Ghanaians sleep in those houses in peace.
These are the elements that make governments thrive and make democracy meaningful. It’s about choices, it’s about priorities, and it’s about genuine commitment. With a team that would not sleep on the job and citizens like me who are ready to  participate and support every constitutionally elected government by criticizing constructively and shunning long, unproductive talks, Ghana would be on its way to realizing our long held dream. Finally, meaningful democracy would require that separation of powers is a reality and not a façade and that well-thought, time-testing and innovative policies and programs are put in place to benefit the people and put the country on an attractive pedestal. I may get tired of writing but I would never get tired of envisaging a country that works and can secure my future and that of my children. With my firm believe in justice, I can only hope that the president enjoys his full tenure and account to the people accordingly after his four year mandate. Start work and start real good.